Success, in itself has no definite meaning, as it changes from person to person accordingly. But on a general note, the common idea of success means financial affluence, increased societal status, a happy family, and many such indicators.
Since there is a clichéd understanding of success, there are also a few connotations attached to it. Not necessarily true, here we are debunking much popular notions surrounding the popular idea of success:
1. Success makes you a better person
When people work in a very demanding role that makes them deeply competitive. It rubs off on their personal life also. People seem to be on a short temper all the time, flaring up at people including their family for no reason.
Once this is realized, people can make an attentive effort to separate their work life from personal life and things can soon return to being normal. Staying level headed and not letting success go to your head sometimes needs a conscious intent!
2. To succeed, you need to focus on some parts of your life more, however once you are successful you can balance your life again
When you focus too much on one aspect of your life at the expenditure of other aspects which are equally important, you cannot always escape the consequences.
Let’s look at an example. In 2009 Ranjan Das, the SAP India CEO, died of a massive heart attack. He was 42 years old and active in sports, was a fitness fanatic and also a marathon runner with no history of any type of cardiac problem. So what led to this tragedy? Apparently, as he had said earlier, he managed with barely 4-5 hours of sleep a day.
Balancing personal and professional life requires a conscious on-going effort and it is not something that happens on its own.
3. Once you are successful everything falls in place
The truth is, success is a journey and your problems don’t just go away.Sometimes when you get that coveted promotion that takes you to the top of the corporate ladder, you discover that the relationships you had counted on, have soured. A lot of things change with success and you have to be prepared to deal with it.
A famous actor in India once remarked- “It’s ironical, when you are not a successful actor you crave attention and once you are famous, you go to great lengths to protect your privacy?”
4. Money is the biggest motivator for success
It goes without saying that money is a powerful motivator for many people. But, if you make that your only motivator you may find yourself with a very short runway to success.
A study conducted by Princeton University found that money increases the day to day contentment of people until their annual income touches $75000. After that it ceased to have any significant impact on their day to day contentment although it did bring about a deeper satisfaction in the way people felt about their life in the long term.
5. One size fits all
One of the myths is that success means the same to everybody. The fact is that there is no such thing as a common definition or common parameter of success. Every person has his or her own parameters for success and what success means to you may be very different from what it means to me.
Unless you are clear what your definition of success is, no matter what you achieve, it may still leave you dissatisfied.
6. Success is always empowering
The value of success is relative to what it has cost you, to achieve it.If success has cost you your health or something important to you, it may not give you the same level of empowerment that you would expect.
7. If you work very hard and succeed
You can retire early and enjoy the rest of your life
A lot of people harbor the myth that by working really hard and focusing exclusively on their career, they can shorten their work life, retire early and then enjoy life on their terms.
What they haven’t reckoned with is the fact that life span is on the rise, inflation catches up with you quickly and it is very difficult for a person who has been busy all his life to sit back and do nothing. So, even if you make this happen, it may not be what you had in mind!
8. It’s all about the right opportunity
Very often people believe that all it takes to succeed is to get the right opportunity. So, they spend their lives waiting for that perfect opportunity to present itself.
The reality couldn’t be more different! You are actually better off starting small and making mistakes rather than waiting for that perfect opportunity to present itself.
9. Success leads to happiness
Happiness and success are two different things. If you link happiness to success, you make your happiness conditional and you could end up with very little happiness in your life, regardless of how successful you are.
Quite often we live with the idea that happiness is with the next job, the next success and so on. But, unless you give up the idea that happiness is somewhere else, it will never be where you are!
Many of you would have encountered several myths in your own journey to success. It would be great to know what those are and what worked for you and what didn’t.
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