How to have a Crucial Conversations with your Boss

There are plenty of things that affect our working environment and not necessarily all of them are good. Some build us up, and some tear as down. But the call to action needs to be taken when the negative days start to overpower the positive ones. And usually, this is where people go in a limbo. Rather than discussing their problems with their team or their bosses, they choose to harbor their feelings and gulp down their issues which have disastrous consequences. Then what needs to be done? This is something which might vary according to people’s ability to hold a crucial conversation where stakes are high. It is indeed a tough decision to make. Actually, sitting down with your boss and discussing your problems with him/her? There are people who’d break into a sweat at that thought. Are you one of them, too? Then keep on reading on. Holding a tough conversation is an art, a skill that needs to be learned over the years. The art of making the other person see your side of the coin without making them lose the entire point of the meeting and focusing on you rather than the topic, a tough one to master. We all at some point suffer from confirmation bias, and conversations often bear the brunt of the same. Then how do you make yourself heard, when you don’t know how to put yourself out there? A crucial conversation, as mentioned above, includes the high stakes which can make or break your personal/professional life in a jiffy. So the question arises, how to handle such conversations?  Here are...
The Elephant Syndrome

The Elephant Syndrome

Have you ever looked at a circus elephant, or the ones which are tamed? Next time you get an opportunity look at them carefully, focus on their leg- you would see that there is a metal chain around the leg which is tied with the help of a belt with a wooden or metal peg that is inserted in the ground. Does not sound interesting? Consider the fact that this mighty hulk which probably weighs nearly 5000 Kg’s, can, with a sniff, pull it out, free itself and run away. But what does it do – nothing Can you believe it – nothing?? Why? It’s because when the elephant was a baby, it’s trainers used exactly the same method. A chain was tied around it’s leg and the other end of it was tied to a metal stake which was inserted deep inside the ground. The chain and the stake were strong enough for the baby elephant, which wanted to go out, play, run and whenever it tried, the chain will pull it back. It would pull harder, excited to see the world, but the chain would cut into the skin on it’s leg, making it bleed and creating a wound that would even hurt more. Soon the baby elephant realized that it was futile, it can’t escape. So what did it do – it stopped trying! So now, when this mighty elephant is tied to the chain around it’s leg, it still has the vivid memories of the pain and the struggle it endured as a baby and therefore does not try to break away. It does not matter...